I’ve noticed that there are things you observe only when you have some reference to it. For example you buy a new car and immediately start seeing that make and model in all sorts of colors. But those cars were there before! Well yeah! The only thing that’s changed is that you’re frame of reference shifted and your no longer filtering those cars out.
I think we’re wired to parse information based on that frame of reference. Otherwise we might be inundated or overloaded with information. Makes since right?
So how does this apply when you’re dealing with people? Is there a law of subjective empathy? Can you have understanding of what someone is feeling if you haven’t felt it yourself? Well yes – to some degree – that’s what empathy means. (the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another). You can imagine how someone might feel. But if you’ve truly experienced what that other person has then you have a much greater understanding. “The burned hand teaches best.”
Just a few miss-spelled words dear and an observation. If you expect to hear the truth and only the truth you must be willing to give the truth and only the truth.